Ever feel like you give and give until there’s nothing left? Like you’re running on spiritual fumes while everyone else is sipping on life’s luxuries? Well, here’s a reality check: Allah never asked you to be a doormat. In fact, the Quran is full of divine wisdom on self-love and self-respect. And no, it’s not selfish, it’s Sunnah!
Before you roll your eyes and go back to overextending yourself, let’s get one thing straight: Loving yourself isn’t haram. It’s not arrogance, it’s not narcissism, it’s acknowledging your worth as Allah’s creation. So, let’s dive into five Quran-backed ways to love yourself first (because you deserve it, sis!).
1. Know Your Worth – Because Allah Already Does
The world might try to convince you that you’re not enough. That you need to be prettier, thinner, richer, quieter, louder, you name it. But guess what? Allah already made you perfect.
“Indeed, We have created the human being in the best of stature.” (Quran 95:4)
Let that sink in. The Best. Of. Stature. No filter needed. Your worth isn’t tied to societal beauty standards, the number of likes on your latest post, or how many people approve of your choices. Allah already approved of you the moment He created you.
Action Step: Start talking to yourself like you would to your best friend. No more self-sabotaging, sis. Allah made you worthy, act like it!
2. Set Boundaries – Even the Prophet (ﷺ) Did It!
Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt guilty for saying ‘no.’ Well, guilt-tripping yourself into burnout isn’t exactly Sunnah.
Even Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) set boundaries. He took time to rest, to reflect, to pray alone. He didn’t let people drain him dry, so why are you?
“Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship.” (Quran 2:185)
Action Step: Start saying NO without feeling guilty. (And if they try to manipulate you? Just smile and say, “I’m prioritizing my mental well-being, in shaa Allah. “)
3. Stop Chasing Love That Was Never Meant for You
Tough love time: If he’s ghosting you, treating you like an option, or making you question your worth… he’s not it. Period.
Allah has already written your love story. And spoiler alert, it doesn’t include begging someone to see your value.
“Perhaps you dislike something, and it is good for you; and perhaps you love something, and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (Quran 2:216)
If someone is bringing you more heartbreak than happiness, Allah is redirecting you, not punishing you.
Action Step: Love yourself enough to walk away from what doesn’t align with your worth. Your real love story is written in the heavens.
4. Prioritize Your Peace – Because Jannah-Level Tranquility Starts Now
When was the last time you did something just for you? Not for your family, not for your boss, not for your followers, just for your own peace of mind?
Allah wants you to live a life of peace and balance. That means saying bismillah before unfollowing toxic people and choosing joy over drama.
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Quran 13:28)
Action Step: Create a “Jannah Vibes Only” routine, pray, read Quran, take care of yourself, and block out anything that steals your peace. (Yes, even that one friend who only calls to complain.)
5. Invest in Yourself – Because You’re a Walking Blessing
When was the last time you poured into yourself?
The Quran literally tells us to seek knowledge, grow, and improve ourselves:
“Say, Are those who know equal to those who do not know?” (Quran 39:9)
Your mind, your soul, your well-being, they all deserve to be nourished. And the best way? Surround yourself with things that elevate you!
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Final Thoughts – Your Love Story Starts With YOU
Here’s the bottom line, sis: Allah didn’t create you to live in self-doubt and exhaustion. Loving yourself isn’t selfish, it’s a sign of gratitude to the One who created you.
So start today. Prioritize YOU. Set boundaries, let go of what’s not serving you, and invest in what makes you better. And if you need a little push? That self-love journal is waiting for you.
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