Hey, sister! So, you’re sitting there, phone in hand, wondering why you haven’t heard from him. Again. And here you are, battling that itching urge to double-text, triple-text, or even send him a ‘Hey… Just checking if you got my last 12 messages’ kinda text. But guess what? The Holy Quran actually has some wisdom to drop here, and it’s a game-changer. Let’s dive right in.
1. Your Value Is Beyond This World – Act Like It!
You are worth more than gold, sis. The Quran reminds you in Surah Al-Isra (17:70): “We have certainly honored the children of Adam.” Your worth isn’t defined by how fast someone replies to your texts. Your dignity comes from your faith, your kindness, your strength. Why chase someone who can’t even be bothered to reply when Allah has already honored you?
2. Desperation Is NOT Your Brand
Yeah, texting first might seem harmless. But the Quran advises us to be dignified and modest in our interactions. Surah Al-Ahzab (33:32) tells us to speak in a manner that is honorable and decent. Basically, if you’re chasing someone to the point of desperation, that’s not you – that’s someone else’s version of you. And it’s not cute.
3. Who Holds Your Heart? (Hint: It’s Not Him)
Newsflash: The one holding your heart is way above this mortal drama. Surah Ar-Ra’d (13:28) says, “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” Chasing a man over text won’t bring you peace. It’ll just give you a headache, a broken heart, and a whole lot of ‘Why am I doing this to myself?’ moments.
4. The Right Man Won’t Need Chasing
Here’s the harsh truth: The one Allah has written for you is going to find you. You don’t need to send him a novel every morning to remind him you exist. As Surah An-Nur (24:26) beautifully states, “Good women are for good men, and good men are for good women.” When the time is right, Allah will make it happen, no chasing necessary.
5. Guard Your Heart Like It’s a Rare Diamond (Because It Is!)
Look, sister. Your heart is precious. And just like you wouldn’t leave diamonds lying around for anyone to grab, you shouldn’t be throwing your attention at someone who’s clearly not ready to value it. Surah Al-Furqan (25:63) describes the believers as “those who walk upon the earth easily” – meaning, they carry themselves with grace and confidence. Be that woman.
6. Patience Over Panic, Always
This one’s hard, I know. But the Quran teaches us that patience is a sign of true faith. Surah Al-Baqarah (2:153) says, “O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.” Translation? If he’s worth your time, he’ll make the effort. If not, you’re dodging a bullet, sis.
Conclusion
Girl, let’s be real. You deserve someone who values you without you having to convince them over text. The Quran offers guidance that, if you listen to it, will protect your dignity and give you peace of mind. So, the next time you’re tempted to double-text, triple-text, or hit him with a “Did you die or something?” message, just remember: You are worth so much more.
Now, put that phone down and go live your life like the queen Allah created you to be.