Ladies, let’s be real. The struggle to find Mr. Right is like trying to find a needle in a haystack, while blindfolded. In the age of filtered selfies, sweet-talking charmers, and commitment-phobes, choosing a husband based on fleeting feelings is like signing up for a lifetime subscription to regret. But don’t worry, I got you!
The Holy Quran has already laid down the blueprint for selecting a husband who won’t make you want to pull your hijab in frustration. So, before you say “Qabool hai” and lock in your fate, ask yourself these seven Quranic questions. Trust me, your future self will thank you.
1. Does He Have Taqwa or Just a Nice Beard? (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:2)
Listen, just because he has a neatly trimmed beard and an Islamic Instagram bio doesn’t mean he’s a pious man. Allah says in the Quran: “This is the Book about which there is no doubt, a guidance for those conscious of Allah.” (2:2)
A God-fearing man respects his wife, prays regularly, and lives by Islamic principles, not just when people are watching. If he’s more concerned with how many likes his “Alhamdulillah for everything” post gets than actually following the deen, RED FLAG!
2. Is He Financially Responsible or Just a ‘Future Billionaire’? (Surah An-Nisa 4:34)
Love won’t pay the bills, sis. The Quran states: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other and because they support them from their means.” (4:34)
If his entire financial plan is “InshaAllah, things will work out,” you might want to reconsider. Ambition is great, but a man should have a real plan to provide for his future family, not just dreams of a crypto empire.
3. Does He Treat Women With Respect or Think He’s the King of the House? (Surah An-Nisa 4:19)
A husband should be your partner, not your dictator. Allah commands men: “Live with them in kindness; for if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike something in which Allah has placed much good.” (4:19)
If he can’t even speak to his own mother with kindness, imagine how he’ll treat you after a few years of marriage. Run, sis, run!
4. Can He Control His Anger or Is He a Walking Time Bomb? (Surah Ash-Shura 42:37)
Marriage is tough. There will be disagreements, but if he reacts like an angry bull over small issues, you’re in for a bumpy ride. The Quran praises those who “restrain their anger and pardon the people.” (42:37)
If he punches walls when he’s mad or gives you silent treatment for days, don’t ignore the warning signs. The only thing he should be breaking is his fast, not his promises.
5. Does He Have Good Manners or Just Good Pick-Up Lines? (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:21)
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was the best example of how a man should behave: “Indeed, in the Messenger of Allah, you have an excellent example.” (33:21)
Does he open doors for others? Is he polite to waiters? If he only shows respect to you but is rude to everyone else, that’s not good character, that’s an act.
6. Does He Actually Pray or Just Post About It? (Surah Al-Mu’minun 23:1-2)
Allah describes the successful believers as: “Certainly will the believers have succeeded: They who are during their prayer humbly submissive.” (23:1-2)
If he’s too “busy” to pray now, what makes you think he’ll suddenly become religious after marriage? A man who prays values his connection with Allah, and that means he’ll also value you.
7. Does He Have a Growth Mindset or Think He’s Already Perfect? (Surah Al-Ra’d 13:11)
The Quran says: “Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (13:11)
Does he want to become a better Muslim, a better person, a better husband? Or does he think he’s already the perfect package? If he’s unwilling to grow, don’t expect marriage to magically change him.
The Ultimate Solution: Find Your Husband Like a Queen!
Alright, I know what you’re thinking. Where do I even find a man who checks all these boxes? Let’s be honest, good men exist, but they don’t exactly come knocking on your door.
This is why you NEED a Quranic Marriage Guide that helps you navigate the process like a pro. It’s designed to help Muslim women find a righteous husband while avoiding heartbreak and deception. And guess what? It’s HALAL-approved!
Final Words: Choose Wisely, Marry Smart
Sisters, don’t let loneliness trick you into making a rushed decision. Allah has already planned the BEST for you, but you need to do your part, too. Choose a husband who leads you to Jannah, not one who leads you to heartbreak.
Now, tell me, are you ready to find the one? Drop a “InshaAllah” in the comments if you’re committed to choosing wisely!