Hey girl, let’s get real. You’re out here trying to live your best life according to the Holy Quran, being the amazing, righteous queen you are. But then, boom! Along comes Mr. Charming, whispering sweet nothings and sending you mixed signals. One moment, he’s all “You’re the most special person I’ve ever met,” and the next, he’s vanishing like your favorite hijab pin in the washing machine.
But you’re not about to get played. Not when you’ve got divine guidance on your side! So, let’s break down 7 Quranic Red Flags that’ll help you spot a fake faster than you can say “Astaghfirullah!”
1. He Talks a Big Game, But His Actions Don’t Match (Surah As-Saff, 61:2-3)
You know what’s worse than a sweet-talker? A sweet-talker who doesn’t back it up with action. Allah says:
“O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allah that you say what you do not do.”
If he’s all about making promises and future plans but can’t even commit to meeting your wali, sis, he’s not serious. Actions speak louder than words, always.
2. He Avoids Commitment Like It’s Haram (Surah An-Nisa, 4:34)
Some guys treat commitment like it’s the ultimate forbidden fruit. But Islam literally emphasizes responsibility and commitment. The Quran says:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…”
If he’s making you feel like you’re asking for too much just by wanting clarity and intention, then girl, he’s dodging responsibilities like it’s a sport.
3. He Encourages You to Compromise Your Values (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:42)
You’re out here trying to be righteous, and suddenly he’s pushing you to compromise on your deen? Huge red flag. Allah says:
“And do not mix the truth with falsehood or conceal the truth while you know [it].”
If he’s comfortable with you going against your principles, he’s not the man Allah wants for you.
4. He Disrespects Your Faith (Surah Al-Mumtahanah, 60:8)
A real man will respect your faith and help you grow closer to Allah, not drag you away. The Quran encourages kindness and respect even towards those of different beliefs:
“Allah does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes, from being righteous toward them and acting justly toward them.”
If he makes fun of your modesty or your dedication to your deen, he’s not worth your time.
5. He’s Manipulative and Plays Victim (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:204)
Ever notice how some guys have a way of turning every argument around so suddenly you’re the villain? The Quran warns us about such deceit:
“And of the people is he whose speech pleases you in worldly life, and he calls Allah to witness as to what is in his heart, yet he is the fiercest of opponents.”
If he’s constantly manipulating you into feeling guilty for his mistakes, it’s time to say “Goodbye!”
6. He’s Only There When It’s Convenient (Surah Al-Ma’un, 107:4-7)
Consistency matters. And if he’s only around when he needs something from you, that’s a major red flag. The Quran says:
“So woe to those who pray but are heedless of their prayer, those who make a show [of their deeds].”
If his presence in your life is all about appearances and benefits, then he’s not worth your peace of mind.
7. He Has No Taqwa (Surah Al-Imran, 3:102)
Taqwa, God-consciousness, is the foundation of a true believer’s character. If he shows no effort in bettering himself or bringing you closer to Allah, then it’s time to reevaluate. The Quran says:
“O you who have believed, fear Allah as He should be feared and do not die except as Muslims [in submission to Him].”
If he’s not even trying to be a better Muslim, then what are you doing wasting your time?
Final Thoughts
Girl, you deserve someone who values you as much as Allah values you. Someone who will uplift your deen, not tear it down. It’s all there in the Quran, guidance to help you avoid the heartbreaks and empty promises.
So, next time you catch yourself wondering if he’s worth it, just ask yourself: Would this man make my relationship with Allah stronger? If the answer is no, then you already know what to do. Block, delete, and move on like the queen you are.