Ladies, let’s be real. You’re here because your gut is whispering (or maybe screaming), “Something isn’t right.” Maybe you’re stuck in the “Will he? Won’t he?” cycle, and you’re wondering if this guy is a blessing or a test. Here’s the truth: not every “romantic” path leads to marriage, some lead straight into sin city. And guess what? The Holy Quran has already dropped the ultimate truth bombs to help you figure this out. Ready to decode the divine signals? Let’s get into it!
1. He’s All About the “Vibes,” But Not the Nikah
“And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find tranquillity in them.” (Quran 30:21)
Sis, if his idea of commitment is “seeing where it goes,” it’s going to nowhere fast. If he’s more about “Netflix and chill” than “Nikah and build,” then Houston, we have a problem. The Quran speaks about tranquillity in marriage, not confusion in situationships. If peace isn’t part of the package, neither should you be.
2. He Loves You, But Secretly
“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.” (Quran 17:32)
If he’s only “romantic” behind closed doors and “just friends” in public, girl, that’s not love, that’s a sneaky link. Islam honors love that’s pure and public, not something that survives only in the shadows. Real love isn’t a secret; it’s a sacred announcement.
3. His Texts Are Sweet, But His Intentions? Bittersweet.
“And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight, and the heart – about all those [one] will be questioned.” (Quran 17:36)
If his words are smooth but his actions are slippery, beware. Sweet talk is easy, but sincere intentions? Rare. If he’s dodging serious conversations about your future, it might be time to ghost him faster than he ghosts the concept of accountability.
4. He Invites You to “Chill,” But Not to Pray
“And establish prayer and give zakah and obey the Messenger – that you may receive mercy.” (Quran 24:56)
If he can invite you to hang out but not to pray, red flags are waving. A man who wants your soul as much as your selfie is the real deal. But if his “spiritual leadership” extends only to choosing the next movie, then, sis, you already know.
5. He’s All About “What Feels Right,” But Ignores What Is Right
“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (Quran 2:216)
If he’s pushing boundaries under the guise of “love feels right,” remember: feelings aren’t facts. The Quran reminds us that what’s sweet isn’t always good, and what’s bitter might save your soul. Don’t let “good vibes” sabotage your good deeds.
6. He’s Always Talking About the Future, But Never About Your Future
“And whoever fears Allah – He will make for him a way out.” (Quran 65:2)
Does he speak about “someday” but never about “wedding day”? Vague plans are just fancy procrastination. If he fears Allah, he’ll fear wasting your time. Period. A man with true intentions won’t leave you guessing, he’ll be planning.
7. He’s Changing Your Boundaries, Not Changing for the Better
“Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13:11)
If he’s constantly pushing your boundaries, he’s not pulling you closer to Jannah; he’s dragging you toward regret. The Quran teaches that change starts within. So if he’s not evolving into a better man, it’s time you evolve out of that relationship.
Final Thoughts: Choose Your Path Wisely
Sis, love isn’t supposed to be a maze of confusion and compromise. It’s meant to be clear, dignified, and divinely blessed. The Quran isn’t just a book; it’s your ultimate guide to love, life, and everything in between. If a man isn’t leading you toward righteousness, he’s leading you toward ruin, and you deserve better.
So, ask yourself: is he your dua come true, or your test in disguise?
Because when it’s real, it won’t feel like a sin. It’ll feel like peace.