Let’s be real. You tell yourself: “We’re not doing anything haram, we’re just talking.” Or “Allah knows my intentions, and we love each other.” But deep down, something doesn’t feel right.
Guess what? That gut feeling might just be a divine warning! And ignoring it? Well, let’s just say, shaitaan would LOVE that for you.
Before you sink deeper into a “halalified” haram situation, check these 7 Quranic red flags that scream: Sis, this ain’t it!
1. You’re Keeping It a Secret (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:42)
“And do not mix the truth with falsehood or conceal the truth while you know [it].”
If your “relationship” is so halal, why are you hiding it from your parents? Your friends? Aunties? The local mosque auntie, Aisha Khala, doesn’t know? Sis… that’s a sign.
Solution: If it’s real, let him man up and make it official. If he’s serious about you, he should be serious about marriage.
2. He’s Stringing You Along with No Intentions of Marriage (Surah An-Nisa 4:34)
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…”
If he says, “I just need to get my life together first,” or “Let’s wait a few more years,” RUN.
A real man who follows Islam will honor you, not keep you as an emotional convenience.
Solution: Give him a deadline. If he’s not talking to your wali soon, it’s time to go.
3. You’re Emotionally Dependent on Him (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:6)
“The Prophet is closer to the believers than their own selves.”
If you can’t go a day without texting him for validation, love, or “good morning, princess” messages, you might be putting him above Allah.
Solution: Start replacing his words with dhikr (remembrance of Allah). Strengthen your deen before your heart becomes a playground for distractions.
4. Your Conversations Are… Let’s Just Say, Not Exactly Islamic (Surah Al-Isra 17:32)
“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is an outrage and an evil way.”
If your texts need to be deleted before anyone sees them—sis, you already know.
Solution: Cut the late-night chats, the flirty emojis, the ‘accidental’ selfies. Purify your heart before it gets deeper into haram territory.
5. You’re More Worried About Losing Him Than Displeasing Allah (Surah At-Tawbah 9:24)
“Say, [O Muhammad], ‘If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, wealth which you have obtained… are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger… then wait until Allah executes His command.’”
Sis, he’s not your savior. Allah is. If you’re choosing him over your faith, this relationship is leading you away from Jannah, not towards it.
Solution: Ask yourself: Would you rather lose him now or lose Allah’s blessings forever?
6. You’re Stuck in a Cycle of Guilt and Istighfar (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:286)
“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…”
If you’re constantly saying “Astaghfirullah” after every call, hug, or text…
Solution: Take this as your final wake-up call. Break free now, before regret becomes heavier.
7. You Haven’t Made Dua for Guidance (Surah Al-Furqan 25:74)
“And those who say, ‘Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.’”
If you haven’t asked Allah if he’s the one for you… do you even want a halal love story?
Solution: Pray Salat al-Istikhara. If he’s meant for you, Allah will make a halal path easy. If not? Let that door close before your heart breaks.
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Final Thoughts: It’s Your Choice, Sis!
At the end of the day, only you can choose your path. Will you keep lying to yourself, or will you take control of your life and make it TRULY halal?