Sis, let’s be real. You’ve been waiting on a sign from Allah, but deep down, you already know the truth: He’s just not the one. Yet, here you are, praying istikhara for the seventh time, waiting for some magical revelation while he’s out there doing… whatever it is that questionable men do.
Listen, your heart deserves better. And guess what? The Quran has already laid down the blueprint for spotting a red flag in human form. So let’s break it down, shall we? Here are 8 undeniable Quranic signs that he was NEVER meant for you.
1. He Talks the Talk, But Where’s the Walk?
“O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do? It is most hateful to Allah that you say what you do not do.” (Quran 61:2-3)
Says he’ll change. Says he’ll start praying. Says he’ll take your relationship seriously. But girl, has he? Actions speak louder than empty WhatsApp messages.
2. He Treats You Like a Secret, Not a Blessing
“And do not approach unlawful sexual relations. Indeed, it is an outrage and an evil way.” (Quran 17:32)
If he’s texting you at only 11:47 PM but won’t introduce you to his family at 11:47 AM, we have a problem. Love that’s halal isn’t a hidden side quest. It’s a divine commitment.
3. Your Iman Drops Every Time He’s Around
“Indeed, the Shaytan only wants to cause between you animosity and hatred through intoxicants and gambling and to avert you from the remembrance of Allah and from prayer. So will you not desist?” (Quran 5:91)
If being with him makes you miss Fajr, stop wearing your hijab confidently, or lower your standards, then sis… he’s not a blessing. He’s a test. And you’re failing.
4. He Uses “Islam” as an Excuse for His Laziness
“And say, ‘Do [as you will], for Allah will see your deeds, and [so will] His Messenger and the believers.’” (Quran 9:105)
“A woman’s place is in the home.” But his place is in his boys’ group chat doing nothing productive? Nah. A true man builds, protects, and leads with responsibility.
5. His Character Is as Unstable as His WiFi
“The most beloved of people to Allah is the one who brings the most benefit to others.” (Hadith – Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat)
One day he’s quoting Quran, the next he’s ghosting you for a week? A man with integrity and taqwa is consistent, in his love, his actions, and his responsibilities.
6. He Belittles Your Worth Instead of Elevating You
“And do not forget to do good to one another.” (Quran 2:237)
If he makes you feel less than, constantly criticizes you, or makes you question your self-worth, run faster than Musa (AS) crossing the Red Sea.
7. Your Gut Screams “NO” but Your Heart Keeps Begging “Please”
“Perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you, and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (Quran 2:216)
Sis, sometimes your love for him is just your nafs playing tricks on you. Trust that Allah’s plan is always better than your attachment to a walking red flag.
8. You Keep Making Excuses for His Obvious Flaws
“And do not incline toward those who do wrong, lest you be touched by the Fire.” (Quran 11:113)
Yes, people can change. Yes, dua is powerful. But Islam teaches us to be smart, not naive. If he’s not actively working on himself now, what makes you think he’ll magically transform later?
So, What Now?
If you saw at least three of these signs, it’s time to let him go, sis. Your peace, your iman, and your future depend on it.
And I get it, moving on isn’t easy. But guess what? You don’t have to do it alone. That’s why I highly recommend The Self-Love Quran Journal, a guided workbook designed to help Muslim women heal, find their worth, and step into the love Allah actually wants for them.
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Final Reminder:
If he was truly written for you, nothing could take him away. If he wasn’t, nothing could make him stay. Trust Allah, sis. He’s got something way better for you.
Now go claim your worth. Drop a in the comments if you’re ready for the love you actually deserve!