Alright, sis, let’s be real. You’ve been waiting for that perfect, halal, Quran-approved love story. But hold on,is your man really “the one” Allah sent for you? Or is he just another test in disguise? Before you change your last name on Instagram, let’s do a divine reality check!
1. Does He Make You a Better Muslimah?
Love should elevate, not distract. The Quran says:
“The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong” (Surah At-Tawbah 9:71).
If he encourages you to pray, reminds you of your deen, and doesn’t make you feel guilty for choosing hijab over trends, then girl, he might just be sent from above! But if he lowkey makes you feel like you have to compromise your values, RUN!
2. Does He Have Taqwa, or Just a Beard?
Having a beard is great and all, but taqwa (God-consciousness) is the real deal. The Prophet (PBUH) said, “The best among you are those who are best to their wives” (Tirmidhi).
Does he treat his mother with kindness? Does he fear Allah in his actions? Or is he just a walking, talking red flag with a miswak in his pocket? Beware, sis!
3. Is He Consistent, or Just Consistently Inconsistent?
One day he’s all about Quran and Sunnah, and the next he’s ghosting you like last year’s Ramadan goals? Stability is key. Allah tells us:
“And fulfill every covenant. Verily! The covenant will be questioned about” (Surah Al-Isra 17:34).
If he can’t keep his word now, how will he keep a lifelong promise? Let that sink in.
4. Does He Respect Your Boundaries?
If he pressures you to “just send one picture” or “it’s just a dinner, not a date,” RED FLAG! A man who respects your boundaries is a man who fears Allah.
“And do not even go near zina (fornication). Indeed, it is an outrage and an evil path” (Surah Al-Isra 17:32).
A true man of faith will protect your dignity, not test it!
5. Does He Have the Patience of a Prophet?
Marriage isn’t all roses and chai dates; it takes sabr (patience). The Quran praises patience:
“Indeed, Allah is with the patient” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:153).
If he throws tantrums over small things, imagine dealing with that when real-life problems hit. Choose wisely, sis.
6. Is He a Provider, or Just a Dreamer?
Yes, love is cute, but financial responsibility is cuter. Islamically, a man is supposed to provide for his wife.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has made one of them excel over the other” (Surah An-Nisa 4:34).
If his “future plans” are just vibes and wishes, ask yourself: Are you marrying a man or a motivational quote?
7. Do His Actions Match His Words?
Does he talk about being a “man of God” but spend more time on TikTok than in Salah? Actions matter more than words. Allah warns us:
“O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do?” (Surah As-Saff 61:2).
If his actions and words don’t align, your heart shouldn’t align with him either.
8. Does Your Heart Feel at Peace?
Sisters, dua is your best friend. The Prophet (PBUH) taught us to pray Istikhara when making big decisions. If you’re always stressed about him, that might be Allah’s way of saying, “Nah, sis, not this one.”
“And He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who reflect” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21).
If there’s no mercy, no peace, and your gut is screaming “NO,” listen to it!
9. The Ultimate Love Hack: Trust in Allah
At the end of the day, your ultimate love story is already written. Instead of obsessing over “Is he the one?” focus on becoming the one Allah wants YOU to be.
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Final Verdict: Is He Sent by Allah, or Nah?
If your guy passes the Quranic test, Alhamdulillah! If not, sis, close that chapter and move forward with dignity.
Now It’s Your Turn! Drop a “YAAS or NAH” in the comments if this helped you! And don’t forget to grab your Ultimate Muslimah Marriage Planner before it’s g