Ladies, let’s talk. Imagine this: you’re deep into a situationship that feels almost right but not quite right. You tell yourself, Maybe he just needs time. Maybe I can guide him. But deep down, your gut is screaming: “Sis, run!”
Well, guess what? The Holy Quran has already given you the ultimate checklist to spot a walking red flag from miles away. If you’re serious about living your best life the halal way and protecting your heart from heartbreak (and major sins), keep reading. Because if he ticks even ONE of these red flags, you might just be wasting your precious time (and girl, you do not have time to waste).
1. He Treats Your Relationship Like a Casual Fling
Red Flag Alert! If he’s all about “Let’s just see where this goes” but never mentions marriage, girl, run like you just saw a spider on your pillow. The Quran is clear:
“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.” (Surah Al-Isra 17:32)
Translation? If he’s not talking about nikkah, he’s talking nonsense. And you deserve way more than a “temporary vibe.”
2. He Low-Key (or High-Key) Disrespects Islam
Does he roll his eyes when you remind him of prayer? Does he joke about fasting being “just a diet”? Huge red flag! The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:
“A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religion. So, marry the religious woman lest you be losers.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
Sis, if he doesn’t take Islam seriously, how can he possibly take you seriously? Your future kids deserve a father who values their deen, not just a man who can pull off a good beard filter on Snapchat.
3. He’s Financially Irresponsible (Or Just Plain Cheap!)
If he has money for designer shoes but hesitates to spend a dime on charity, big yikes. Islam teaches us about financial responsibility:
“And do not give the weak-minded your property, which Allah has made a means of sustenance for you.” (Surah An-Nisa 4:5)
A man who can’t manage his finances (or worse, expects YOU to handle everything) is NOT husband material. Because let’s be real, sis, your wedding isn’t going to pay for itself!
4. He Has No Ambition or Purpose
If his biggest life goal is “vibing” and he has zero plans for his future, Houston, we have a problem. The Quran praises those who strive for excellence:
“And that there is not for man except that [good] for which he strives.” (Surah An-Najm 53:39)
A real man has a vision. If he doesn’t even know what he wants for dinner, how will he know what he wants for his future? Don’t let potential blind you, sis.
5. He Has a “Pick-and-Choose” Approach to Religion
One minute he’s quoting the Quran, the next he’s justifying why his haram actions are actually “not that bad.” Pick a side, bro! The Quran warns us:
“Do you believe in part of the Scripture and reject part of it?” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:85)
If he treats Islam like a buffet (picking only the “easy” parts), just know that he’ll treat marriage the same way. And that is not the kind of risk you want to take.
6. He Surrounds Himself with Bad Company
If his best friends are known for partying, lying, and leading a haram lifestyle, what does that say about him? The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“A man follows the religion of his close friend; so each one should consider whom he takes as a close friend.” (Tirmidhi)
Sis, he might say he’s different, but the company he keeps tells a different story. And trust me, you don’t want to spend your life playing the role of his personal Islamic rehab center.
7. He Gives You “Just Enough” to Keep You Hooked
Maybe he says just the right things when he senses you pulling away. Maybe he throws in a few Islamic quotes to keep you confused. But here’s the cold, hard truth:
“Indeed, the hypocrites [think to] deceive Allah, but He is deceiving them.” (Surah An-Nisa 4:142)
Sis, don’t let him waste your precious time when Allah has someone way better written for you. When a man truly values you, he doesn’t leave you questioning.
So, What’s the Move, Sis?
If he’s guilty of one (or more) of these red flags, you already know what to do: block, delete, and pray for better.
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Final Reminder:
Sis, your future is too precious to waste on a man who isn’t serious about Allah or you. If he’s not helping you get closer to Jannah, why are you letting him drag you down to confusion?
Choose wisely. You deserve a man who fears Allah, respects you, and treats marriage like the sacred bond that it is.
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