Ladies, let’s talk. You’ve done everything right. You pray. You fast. You recite Ayat-ul-Kursi like it’s your personal anthem. And yet… where is he? The perfect husband your aunties keep promising will “magically appear” if you just make enough dua?
Sound familiar? You’re not alone.
The waiting game is real, and some days it feels like everyone else is getting their happily-ever-after while you’re stuck RSVP-ing “solo” to another wedding. But here’s the deal: Allah’s timing is NEVER wrong.
So, how do you keep your faith strong while waiting for the one? Let’s dive into 10 powerful (and slightly savage) ways to trust Allah’s plan like the Queen you are.
1. Stop Stalking Other People’s Love Stories
You know who you are. Scrolling through engagement posts, zooming in on wedding rings, and reading “how we met” stories like it’s a full-time job. Sister, comparison is the thief of joy (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:12). Your story is written by the Best of Writers, so why waste energy envying someone else’s chapter?
2. Dua Like You Mean It (Then Let It Go)
Yes, make dua. Ask for a righteous spouse. But don’t treat Allah like Amazon Prime. Your husband won’t arrive in two business days. “And your Lord says, ‘Call upon Me; I will respond to you.’” (Surah Ghafir 40:60). Trust that He heard you the first time.
3. Work on Yourself, Sis
Repeat after me: You are not waiting; you are preparing. Instead of obsessing over when you’ll get married, focus on who you are before marriage. Develop patience, kindness, and resilience. The best way to attract a good spouse? Be a good spouse.
4. Redefine “Late” (Because Allah Never Is)
Culture says “married by 25.” Islam says “when the time is right.” Who do you trust more? Exactly. “Indeed, Allah is never late in fulfilling His promise.” (Surah Aal-e-Imran 3:9).
5. Dodge the Auntie Mafia (with Grace)
“Beta, when is your turn?” Deep breath. Smile. Reply, “InshaAllah, when Allah wills. Now, how’s your cholesterol?” Redirect the conversation like a pro.
6. Don’t Settle for “Halal But Horrible”
“At least he’s Muslim.” That is NOT the bar, sis. “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Hadith – Tirmidhi). Hold out for the one who values, respects, and uplifts you.
7. Remember, Even Khadijah (RA) Had to Wait
Yes, THE Khadijah. The most amazing woman in Islamic history. She was 40 when she married the best man to ever walk the earth. If she could wait for the right love story, so can you.
8. Fear of Missing Out? Flip It.
FOMO is real, but here’s the truth: You are not missing out. Others are rushing in. Some will marry early and face struggles you don’t see. “And perhaps you hate a thing while it is good for you…” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:216). Your delay is actually your protection.
9. Invest in Something That ACTUALLY Prepares You for Marriage
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10. Say It With Me: “Allah Is Saving Me for Something Special”
Because He is.
The Prophet (PBUH) said, “No one leaves something for the sake of Allah except that He replaces it with something better.” (Hadith – Musnad Ahmad). You might think you’re “waiting,” but Allah is actually upgrading your future.
Final Thoughts (and a Nudge to Take Action)
Look, I get it. The wait is hard. But the alternative? Rushing into something that isn’t meant for you. Trust that Allah’s plan is always better than yours.
And while you wait, use this time wisely. If you’re ready to prepare for marriage the right way, click here to enroll in The Marriage Blueprint.
Because your dream marriage doesn’t start on your wedding day. It starts now.
Don’t wait. Prepare.
InshaAllah, your time will come.