Alright, sis. Let’s be real for a moment. How many times have you felt like a guy was just stringing you along for attention? Like, he’s texting you sweet words one moment and then vanishing like a ghost the next? It’s a hot-and-cold game, and you’re tired of being someone’s ego boost, right?
Here’s the thing , the Quran has already warned us about this. Yup, the ultimate guide to life also has some serious tea on guys who just want to mess with your heart. Let’s break it down with 7 Quranic truths that’ll help you see right through their games.
1. They Speak Sweet Words… But Where’s the Action?
Ever noticed how some guys talk the talk but never walk the walk? The Quran literally calls them out:
“O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do?” (Surah As-Saff, 61:2)
These guys will shower you with words, but when it comes to commitment or genuine effort? Crickets. If his words aren’t backed by actions, sis, the Quran already warned you , he’s not the real deal.
2. They Exploit Your Kindness and Emotions
Some men know how to play on your emotions, making you feel like they care just enough to keep you hooked. But here’s what Allah says:
“And do not follow that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight, and the heart – about all those [one] will be questioned.” (Surah Al-Isra, 17:36)
Translation? Don’t just go by the sweet words and the temporary attention. Dig deeper. If his intentions aren’t clear, don’t fall for the mirage.
3. They Disrespect Your Boundaries
Respect is EVERYTHING. And Islam emphasizes this strongly. If a guy is pushing you to compromise your values, then he’s doing exactly what the Quran warns against:
“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.” (Surah Al-Isra, 17:32)
Anyone who tries to blur your boundaries clearly doesn’t respect you or your faith. That’s your cue to walk away, queen.
4. They Drain Your Peace of Mind
Ever felt mentally exhausted from all the mind games? Allah wants you to protect your peace:
“And We made the night as clothing, and made the day for livelihood.” (Surah An-Naba, 78:10-11)
Just like night and day have their clear purposes, so should people in your life. If he’s only bringing darkness, he’s not worth your daylight.
5. They Make You Doubt Your Worth
When someone’s just stringing you along, they make you question your own value. But Allah already told you how precious you are:
“And certainly, We have honored the children of Adam…” (Surah Al-Isra, 17:70)
Your worth isn’t defined by some guy’s inconsistent attention. Your value is eternal and divine.
6. They Only Show Up When They Need Something
Ah, the classic ‘I need something from you’ guy. Allah gives us clear guidance about dealing with those who only take:
“Woe to those who give less [than due].” (Surah Al-Mutaffifin, 83:1)
If he only shows up when he needs a boost to his ego, then he’s giving you way less than you deserve. And you deserve the best, always.
7. They Distract You From Your Faith
Here’s the harsh truth: if someone is pulling you away from your connection with Allah, then their influence is nothing but harmful. The Quran makes this clear:
“And of the people is he who buys the amusement of speech to mislead others from the way of Allah without knowledge and who takes it in ridicule. Those will have a humiliating punishment.” (Surah Luqman, 31:6)
If a guy’s presence in your life only causes you to drift further from your faith, then he’s a test you’re meant to overcome, not keep.
Final Thoughts:
You’re worth more than someone’s momentary attention. Allah made you powerful, wise, and precious. So, if a man’s attention comes with conditions, games, or disrespect, leave him in the dust. Follow Allah’s guidance, because His love for you is unconditional and eternal.
Ready to ditch the time-wasters and live your life with purpose and faith? Let me know your thoughts below!