Warning: This post is for girls who are done with drama, fed up with fake friendships, and ready to level up their life based on the timeless wisdom of the Holy Quran. If that sounds like you, keep reading. If not, well, may Allah guide you to better company!
1. They Drain Your Energy Faster Than a Phone on 1%
You know the type, they call you only to vent, complain, and unload their negativity. After every conversation, you feel spiritually and emotionally drained. Sound familiar?
Quranic Wisdom: “And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His countenance.” (Surah Al-Kahf 18:28)
Translation? Hang out with people who lift you up in faith, not those who drag you down into the pits of endless gossip and complaints.
2. They Encourage You to Cross Boundaries
If your “friend” constantly nudges you to do things that go against your values, like skipping prayers, gossiping, or compromising your modesty, it’s a major red flag.
Quranic Wisdom: “And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression.” (Surah Al-Ma’idah 5:2)
Newsflash: Real friends don’t cheer you on towards mistakes. They remind you of who you are and who you strive to be.
3. They’re MIA When You Need Them
They ghost you when you need emotional support but expect you to be available 24/7 for their mini-dramas. Reciprocity? Never heard of her.
Quranic Wisdom: “The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers.” (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:10)
True friendship is about mutual support, not one-sided loyalty. If they can’t match your sincerity, it’s time to reassess.
4. They’re Masters of Subtle Shade
Ever had that friend who disguises insults as “jokes” or gives backhanded compliments? Yeah, that’s not love. That’s low-key toxic behavior.
Quranic Wisdom: “O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people.” (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:11)
If their humor is always at your expense, it’s not humor, it’s harm. And you deserve better.
5. They Pull You Away from Your Faith
If you notice your connection with Allah weakening after spending time with certain friends, take that as a major sign.
Quranic Wisdom: “And [remember] the Day when the wrongdoer will bite on his hands [in regret] he will say, ‘Oh, I wish I had taken with the Messenger a way.’” (Surah Al-Furqan 25:27)
Don’t let regret be your teacher. Let the Quran be your guide.
6. They Keep You Stuck in Gossip Culture
Did you hear what she did? No? Well, your toxic friend will be more than happy to fill you in. Repeatedly. At length.
Quranic Wisdom: “And do not spy or backbite each other.” (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:12)
Gossiping is a fast track to a hardened heart. Find friends who talk about ideas, not people.
7. They Make You Feel “Less Than”
If being around them constantly makes you question your worth, that’s not a friendship, it’s emotional sabotage.
Quranic Wisdom: “Do not grieve over them, nor be distressed by what they conspire.” (Surah An-Nahl 16:127)
Real friends make you feel valued, not diminished. It’s that simple.
So, What’s the Quran-Approved Solution?
- Evaluate your circle: Is this friendship pleasing to Allah? If not, it’s time for a friendship detox.
- Set boundaries: Don’t be afraid to distance yourself with grace and dua.
- Seek better company: Look for friends who remind you of Allah, support your growth, and celebrate your wins without envy.
Remember, the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “A person is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” (Abu Dawood)
It’s time to choose your circle with intention and prayer. Toxic friendships are optional. Your connection to Allah is essential.
Which of these signs hit home the most? Share in the comments, let’s support each other in finding better, Quran-inspired friendships!