Ladies, let’s be real. You don’t want to end up choosing a life partner who treats you like background decor or whose idea of romance is “Hey, what’s for dinner?” Your heart deserves better, and guess what? The Holy Quran has already dropped some divine wisdom to guide you. It’s like the ultimate girl’s guide to love, but eternal and way more legit than any Instagram relationship guru.
So buckle up, because these 7 Quranic steps are here to make sure you’re marrying for the right reasons (and not just because he has a nice smile and owns a cat).
1. Prioritize Faith Over Flash
Sure, he’s got a car that could star in a music video, but does he have Taqwa (piety)? The Quran says:
“And marry those among you who are single and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His bounty.” (Quran 24:32)
Translation? Look for faith, not Ferraris. A man grounded in faith is a man who will value you beyond your looks and Instagram likes.
2. Character is Queen (or King)
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said that the best of men are those best to their wives. And let’s be honest, character doesn’t fade like trendy haircuts. If he’s kind, honest, and respectful, you’ve struck gold. If he treats waiters poorly, run, sis. The Quran reminds us:
“The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy.” (Quran 49:10)
Mercy and compassion aren’t just for strangers; they’re for you too. Choose a man who’s merciful in private and public.
3. Consult Your Instincts (And Your Dua Game)
Ladies, if your gut is saying, “Girl, I don’t know about him…” listen. And if you’re still confused, take it up with The Ultimate Advisor (Hint: Allah). The Quran says:
“And when My servants ask you concerning Me, indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me.” (Quran 2:186)
So make dua, and if red flags start waving, don’t ignore them. Even if his cologne smells like paradise.
4. Shared Values > Shared Hobbies
He likes hiking. You like hiking. Cute, but irrelevant if his definition of “values” is Netflix and vibes. The Quran says:
“Good women are obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard.” (Quran 4:34)
It’s about shared commitment to faith and family. Netflix can be paused. Values? Non-negotiable.
5. Money Matters, But Not Like That
Yes, financial stability is important, but don’t let dollar signs blind you. The Quran drops a reality check:
“Wealth and children are [but] adornment of the worldly life. But the enduring good deeds are better to your Lord for reward and better for [one’s] hope.” (Quran 18:46)
Translation? Money can make life easier, but a partner who helps you earn eternal rewards? That’s priceless.
6. Look for Mutual Growth
Marriage isn’t a final destination; it’s a journey where both partners should grow spiritually. The Quran guides:
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy.” (Quran 30:21)
If he’s not cheering you on towards Jannah, why is he even in your life?
7. Ask the Right Questions (No, Not Just ‘What’s Your Favorite Color?’)
Don’t be shy to ask the big questions. What’s his view on faith? How does he handle stress? Does he know how to make dua for his future wife? The Quran champions wisdom:
“And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart – about all those [one] will be questioned.” (Quran 17:36)
So ask. And ask again. Your heart deserves clarity, not confusion.
Final Thoughts:
Marrying for the right reasons isn’t about ticking off a checklist of superficial traits. It’s about finding a partner whose soul speaks the same language as yours, a language rooted in faith, compassion, and mutual growth.
Remember, ladies: Allah doesn’t just want you to find love. He wants you to find the right love. One that leads you not just to happiness in this life, but to eternal happiness in the next.