Ladies, let’s talk about it. You’re praying for a sign, wondering if that guy is the one or just another test of patience. Is it love, or is it just your du’as being ghosted by reality? Well, guess what? Allah doesn’t leave you hanging. Sometimes, He’s protecting you in ways that are crystal clear, if you know how to read the signs. And spoiler alert: they’re straight from the Holy Quran. Ready to find out if you’re being divinely saved from heartbreak? Let’s dive in.
1. When Doors Keep Slamming Shut
You’ve tried everything. Texts, calls, maybe even a prayer for istikhara. But every time you think it’s going somewhere, boom – blocked, ghosted, or “I’m not ready for a relationship”. Guess what? Allah says:
“…But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (Quran 2:216)
If every door keeps shutting, it’s not rejection. It’s protection. Allah is steering you away from heartbreak that you don’t even see coming. Trust the divine GPS.
2. When Your Heart Feels Restless
He’s cute, sure. But why does your heart feel like it’s running a marathon every time you’re with him? That unsettling vibe isn’t just anxiety, it’s a spiritual red flag. Allah says:
“Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.” (Quran 13:28)
If being with someone takes you away from peace and closer to confusion, it’s a sign. Allah wants you to feel calm, not chaotic. If it’s right, it won’t feel wrong.
3. When You’re Drifting from Faith
You used to pray five times a day. Now, you’re barely praying five times a week. You used to feel spiritually connected, but suddenly, you’re questioning your worth. Red alert, sis! Allah warns:
“And do not incline toward those who do wrong, lest you be touched by the Fire…” (Quran 11:113)
If a relationship is pulling you away from your deen, it’s not love, it’s a detour to danger. Love that costs your connection with Allah isn’t worth the price.
4. When You Keep Justifying the Red Flags
“He’s just busy.” “He’s just not good at texting.” “He’s going through a lot.”
Girl, no. If you find yourself writing novels to excuse his behavior, ask yourself why. Allah says:
“And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart – about all those [one] will be questioned.” (Quran 17:36)
Stop convincing yourself of what you know isn’t true. If the relationship needs a defense lawyer, it probably needs to be dismissed.
5. When You’re Losing Yourself
Relationships should enhance who you are, not erase you. But if you’re dimming your light to keep him shining, that’s a problem. Allah tells us:
“And We have certainly honored the children of Adam…” (Quran 17:70)
You are worthy. You are honored. And you deserve a love that makes you feel empowered, not erased. If you feel like you’re losing your voice, your identity, or your purpose, Allah might be protecting you from further loss.
6. When You Feel a Deep Sense of Relief After It Ends
You cried, you screamed into your pillow, you binge-watched sad dramas. But then, out of nowhere, came relief. You feel free. Lighter. That, my friend, is not just healing, it’s divine mercy. Allah says:
“And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you.” (Quran 2:216)
The breakup felt like heartbreak, but maybe it was actually heart protection. Sometimes, Allah removes people to save you from pain you couldn’t see coming.
So, What Now?
If these signs hit home, take it as a gentle nudge from above. Allah doesn’t just guide us to the right people, He also protects us from the wrong ones. It might hurt now, but trust that He sees the full picture. The love you’re praying for isn’t just about finding the right person; it’s about being the right person, standing firm in faith and dignity.
So next time you’re tempted to text “wyd?”, maybe open the Quran instead. The signs are already there.
Because when Allah protects you, it’s the biggest blessing in disguise.